Relationships

Getting Engaged

If you are outside of a relationship, the very thought of getting engaged can quickly strike fear. Like personal relationships, those formed on-line or virtually in social networking communities function very similar to those we forge in person. There is an unspoken expectation of protocol and etiquette from those in the relationship along with some good advice to adhere to the appropriate rules of engagement.

We all function and exist in a multitude of relationships – the people, settings and structures of which form the rules for each accordingly. We learn in relationships, both personal and those in social networking communities, there are common sense rules; yes there are some unwritten rules. I have learned the unwritten rules are the ones you typically learn about after having become aware that you have violated one or more of them.

No different than it would be to butt into someone else’s conversation mid-sentence, the smooth entry for social networking is to listen first and then join in the conversation in an appropriate manner and time. Who is talking, listening, how and what is being said. Put your periscope up, look around, take a scan of the horizon. With a sense of perspective, you are much more likely to be on target in positively engaging the relationship for the short or long-term.

Successful engagement in social networking communities and on-line conversations begins with an awareness of the multiple paths to how we can get engaged. Assimilation and long term success in the relationship comes from working the right path and simply following the rules. Defining “engagement” would involve significant detailed direction, so allow me to share this excellent road map as a resource, courtesy of the ThinkMap Visual Thesaurus.

Engagement -mage from the Visual Thesaurus, Copyright ©1998-2009 Thinkmap, Inc. All rights reserved.

Growing your social networking relationships is rewarding in numerous ways. You have the ThinkMap, you know the rules…get the right perspective and get engaged.

Building Relationships – Virtually

Social Networking

Ever since I read Malcolm Gladwell’s The Tipping Point, I identified myself as a being a “connector.” As a connector, one of the great benefits of being actively engaged in social networking is the ever-present opportunity to link up with friends, both new and those with whom we have long-time trusted relationships.

Throughout 2009 I have been enjoying a growing camaraderie and close connection with a talented diverse group of fellow connectors via Twitter. Interestingly this group, now commonly known online as the #PositivePosse, was organized just like the venue it communicates in…virtually. No one person leads the group and no one person decided who else was going to be identified in the group – it all happened virtually, yet somewhat naturally. Relationships are being strengthened and solidified with every online post.

Shortly after 5:00 a.m. most every weekday mornings you will find the #PositivePosse gathering from all over the planet to start the day with encouragement and true compassion for one another. What is even more amazing is how our social networking entourage now includes visits, weekly calls, projects, business opportunities, fun, music, news, ideas, intel, insight, and inspiration that are shared among the entire group.

We cheer, laugh, work, think, recommend, refer, introduce and most of all we care for one another. True connectors don’t require a handshake or a hug to build and solidify relationships, we use compassion…it makes virtual relationships grow into valued friendships.