perspective

Getting Engaged

If you are outside of a relationship, the very thought of getting engaged can quickly strike fear. Like personal relationships, those formed on-line or virtually in social networking communities function very similar to those we forge in person. There is an unspoken expectation of protocol and etiquette from those in the relationship along with some good advice to adhere to the appropriate rules of engagement.

We all function and exist in a multitude of relationships – the people, settings and structures of which form the rules for each accordingly. We learn in relationships, both personal and those in social networking communities, there are common sense rules; yes there are some unwritten rules. I have learned the unwritten rules are the ones you typically learn about after having become aware that you have violated one or more of them.

No different than it would be to butt into someone else’s conversation mid-sentence, the smooth entry for social networking is to listen first and then join in the conversation in an appropriate manner and time. Who is talking, listening, how and what is being said. Put your periscope up, look around, take a scan of the horizon. With a sense of perspective, you are much more likely to be on target in positively engaging the relationship for the short or long-term.

Successful engagement in social networking communities and on-line conversations begins with an awareness of the multiple paths to how we can get engaged. Assimilation and long term success in the relationship comes from working the right path and simply following the rules. Defining “engagement” would involve significant detailed direction, so allow me to share this excellent road map as a resource, courtesy of the ThinkMap Visual Thesaurus.

Engagement -mage from the Visual Thesaurus, Copyright ©1998-2009 Thinkmap, Inc. All rights reserved.

Growing your social networking relationships is rewarding in numerous ways. You have the ThinkMap, you know the rules…get the right perspective and get engaged.

Gaining Quick Perspective

The NoticerEver notice how the proper perspective can help us adjust our outlook and attitude? Andy Andrews’ new book, The Noticer does just that.

A quick read through a variety of believable human situations  of how taking notice of the little things helps us fortify our most important relationships. Andrews provides readers with some sage advice from Jones, the lead character. Jones is a most unlikely resource to positively influence lives, which gives The Noticer a unique storyline.

Through Jones, Andrews offers timeless advice each of us can benefit from in our daily lives. The situations of each of the story’s characters Jones influences is believable in the times we live in.

The book from Thomas Nelson, Inc. offers reminders of how gaining the right perspective can allow us positively influence the lives of others. The Noticer is one to read and one to share with some special people in your life.